I have written before about the different ways in which we police the muff. Many different magazine articles are dedicated to questioning whether hair is appropriate on a vagina. The question as to whether male pubic hair is appropriate is always posed as an aside because the real issue, that's right the real issue, is making sure the pussy is pleasantly pleasing. Women are expected to continually contort their bodies to whatever society deems to be feminine, having the right parts is not enough for you to classify as 'woman'.
From a very early age we are taught that our bodies are what matter. Any thoughts we might have to the contrary are quickly silenced. Real girls just go along with the status quo. If you make waves boys aren't going to like that, and then you may never be able to participate in your slave auction, otherwise known as a wedding. Think of everything you would be giving up if you dared to do something as radical as let hair grow under your arms, on your legs, and on daddy's well disciplined closed for business twat.
It seems it is never to early to teach young girls about the appropriate shape that their bodies should be in.
One New York City salon, Wanda’s European Skin Care Center, boasts on its Web site that children 8 years and older can get discounted waxing for “virgin” hair. “Virgin hair can be waxed so successfully that growth can be permanently stopped in just 2 to 6 sessions. Save your child a lifetime of waxing ... and put the money in the bank for her college education instead!” the salon proclaims.
Right, cause the norm is that we retain our pre pubescent bodies for life. That this concept of the anti-aging woman is fundamentally anti-woman seems unimportant. Of course if we didn't pay for waxing and just embraced ourselves as nature intended there would be no expense in the first place. Ads like this create a fault in women and then exploit if for financial gain. Of course the colluding mothers that are dragging their daughters to the salon to achieve the much desired model look cannot see the exploitation and anti-woman propaganda that is at work there. Really would the world come to an end if women en masse stopped shaving and waxing? Would men suddenly say no, I'm not going to fuck you? Somehow I doubt it.
There is not a single inch of the female body that society has deemed beyond the need of repair. For every implied fault someone has created a service to "fix it". Now 10 year olds are getting microdermabrasion, which is a treatment that removes dead skin cells. "Lauren Albert, spa director at Rescue Rittenhouse Spa, says mothers frequently bring in their daughters between the ages of 10 and 14 for various waxes, nail services and facials." All this in the quest to have the perfect pretty baby. Who defines perfect? How is it that women have been duped into believing that our bodies are fundamentally damaged?
Two factors combine together to create woman as other; capitalism and patriarchy. When a fault is created it means a business opportunity is created. Even though women earn 70 cents for every dollar a man makes, threatening our femininity is usually enough to get us to part with our hard earned dollars. Big business gains nothing by reinforcing a positive femininity. A woman that loves herself as she is created will not feel the need to succumb to things like waxing, makeup, surgeries etc and this ultimately means that the beauty industry as we understand it would not exist. That it is a predatory industry is largely ignored in the desire to make sure that we are deemed socially acceptable. The male gaze is equally problematic. It creates woman as not only 'other' in comparison to man but 'other' to women. The goal of perfection can never be achieved and that is the point. It keeps women constantly seeking elusive male approval. It creates a sexuality that is not woman centred but man centred and therefore we are meant to feel grateful that a man would think us worthy of a fuck.
It is time that women begin to examine these so called services critically. Who do they really benefit, and what messages are we internalizing. It is harmful to our daughters to teach them at a young age they are unacceptable for something that is beyond their control. It is further harmful that the message we are teaching is that femininity is ultimately a foul thing in need of continual grooming to escape being labelled less than. It is time to stop enriching these corporations that prey upon womens fears. A woman is so much more than her physical appearance and it is time to move beyond this standard as the value of worth.