Awhile ago I posted about Kyle Payne a so-called feminist ally who turned out to be a rapist..that's right a rapist. He wilfully exposed a womans breast and took pictures, and video. Today he sent out a mass e-mail announcing that he had a statement to make. I am late posting a response simply because I could not decide whether or not I actually wanted to read what he had to say. In truth, there is nothing that he could say that would explain his behaviour, or cause me to have any kind of sympathy for him.
I write this letter in the interest of dropping barriers, sharing openly and honestly a story that is very difficult to talk about, in hopes that doing so may bring peace, understanding, and hope to the lives of others
Yeah like a rapist shit could actually inspire hope in anyway. The only thing this man inspires is revulsion and disgust.
While caring for the female student, I felt a sudden impulse to expose her breast. Not knowing how to deal with this feeling at the time – and to put it more clearly, not knowing how to make sense of such an urge, given my personal values and my politics – I acted upon it.
A true ally doesn't feel the need to assault women in this manner. If you were even a half way decent human being, what you would have done is gotten up and left the room...but personal responsibility does not apply to you, does it?
I owe a special apology as well to the many women who have sought my assistance as a rape crisis advocate and who, upon learning about my actions, may have experienced re-victimization. I believe my actions warrant everyone’s questioning of my character and of my ability and willingness to act in accordance with my own professed values. I will either earn trust back, or I won’t. That is not for me to decide. But I take this as an opportunity to speak openly and honestly and be held accountable for my actions.
Actually this little stunt is just an attempt to abdicate responsibility, and it is clear to all who have tarnished themselves to read it. You will never earn the trust back of any woman, much less a feminist woman. You are a rapist Kyle, own up to your actions.
I have faced a great deal of serious consequences of my criminal and unethical actions, all of them just and appropriate. I lost my job in residence life at a major research university, my university-owned apartment, in addition to my acceptance at an excellent graduate program in student affairs. I was unable to attend graduation at BVU, and since pleading guilty, I have been banned from campus for life. My reputation as a pro-feminist activist and an advocate for survivors has been seriously, and quite possibly irrevocably, compromised. I have been forced to leave several activist groups, including those for which I was a leader or founding member. I have also been the subject of intense scrutiny at BVU, in my hometown, in my professional and social networks, and all over the internet. With a criminal record, I will face serious limitations on my career prospects, as well as on my involvement with various social organizations and in personal relationships.
You deserve every bit of it too. This is part of taking responsibility for your actions...That is what you wanted right?
Recognizing what I feel to be my responsibility as a male ally to feminism, as well as a decent human being, I ask that any women reading this letter who wish to share their responses contact me via email
This is the part where I completely fucking lose it..STOP CALLING YOURSELF AN ALLY YOU RAPIST SCUM. YOU ARE NOT A DECENT HUMAN BEING. Allies don't do what you did. You are an affront to every decent man that I know. At this point I am incapable of saying anything else that could be considered remotely coherent, so I am going to direct you to two women that are more eloquent than I when it comes to Kyle...check out Cara at The Curvature and Corvid Diaries.