Saturday, November 15, 2008

Drop It Like It's Hot

Can you believe a week went by so quickly.  At least this week I did not have to fork out another 250 dollars for plumbing issues.  For those of you that don't follow me on twitter, last week my darling little Mayhem (the almost three year old) flushed a bottle of his fathers cologne down the toilet.  It blocked the toilet so badly the plumber had to take it right off to get it out.  I guess that was his way of telling his father that he didn't like the smell of that one.  I tell you when kids aren't making you broke, they're driving you crazy. He is damn lucky he is so cute.

Anyway tell me all about your week and share what you have been reading or writing.  Here are a few articles that caught my attention this week.

The Exception Or The Norm: It seems pretty freakin' clear to me that there is a strong connection between the "fuck all the immigrants, kick them out of the country, all Latinos are immigrants and don't deserve to be here" and a case of SEVEN teens who declare "Let's go find some Mexicans," and consequently beat and stab a man to death because he fits their profile (all Latinos are the same, after all).

My Shawshank Redemption: The ways in which focusing on reform can have a positive effect on recidivism.

The Audacity Of E-Mail: Now that he has been elected should Barack still be trying to raise money?

When Isn't A Penis Sexual: Examining the donation of prosthetic penises to trans man and the conditions that come with it.

The Job With No Paycheck: The media is quick to let Michelle Obama know that she new responsibilities now, but have we ever considered that we are asking her to work without pay?  Why is the labour of women always devalued?

Aspiring To Whiteness: Buying into the American Dream also includes embracing “the views of the dominant white society – including the prejudiced, distorted image of blacks."

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25 comments:

polerin said...

working till 2am 3 nights this week, little bit of music, no art, and...

Seriously, what the hell is with the crazy the last like 3 days of the week. 3 or for insanely crazy murders hit the newswire. I realize that these thing's aren't unusual, but it just seemed worse this week. From Duanna Johnson to Taslim Solangi in Pakistan to more details coming out about how badly Aisha Ibrahim Duhulow from Somalia was wronged...

I donno. Only good part of the week was the best answer to the LJ meme of "If you saw me sitting in the back of a police car, what would you think I got arrested for?"

"Putting 'I Love Donuts' stickers on the back of police cruisers."


... The sad thing is I've actually considered doing something like that. Slightly stronger wording however.

AR said...

It strikes me as rather hypocritical of you to interrupt people's conversations about fruit quality with points about the world's hungry and then discussing your own plumbing problems without devoting space to those who do not have access to indoor plumbing or other means of sanitary waste disposal. I wouldn't expect that of you myself, because I can see that this post is not about such things, and expecting a person to devote space to every form of related human suffering when discussing one's own problems is obviously unreasonable, but then, neither was that orange-quality post about the worlds hungry. Please be consistent.

Anyway tell me all about your week and share what you have been reading or writing.

My week has been spent terribly sore. Perhaps I should have given myself more than 2 months to get into shape before enlisting in the Navy. I'm better now, though. I should be in good enough shape when my ship date arrives in December. Tomorrow, running!

Anyway, what do you think about Obama's support of the proposed bail-out of American automotive companies? So much for change, eh?

Renee said...

@AR come on seriously...I cannot believe you are even going to go there. To say I am irritated is understating my thoughts right now. Look making some small talk about my life is not equating it to the issue of farming. Would it have been better if I included no link at all? I am allowed to make a little small talk from time to time, which is exactly what I did. It was an attempt to share a little bit of myself without getting to personal about life.
I included the link as a way to raise attention to some posts that I thought made some great points this week. There was clearly no connection other than the one you chose to force. The articles speak for themselves and need no commentary from me.

AR said...

I am allowed to make a little small talk from time to time, which is exactly what I did.

Exactly. I even said that expecting otherwise is, to me, unreasonable. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with this post, per se.

But insofar as a person is entitled to mention recent issues related to their children, plumbing, and partner's scent without an equal-length acknowledgment of global lack of clean water, child poverty, and the capitalist system which allows such luxuries as cologne to exist in light of the aforementioned poverty, presumably people are also entitled to discuss the aesthetic quality of the oranges they eat without an equal-length discussion of global hunger, which you apparently disagree with.

I am not objecting to either position, only to the fact that you seem to hold both of them at the same time.

Dori said...

O.o
He flushed a bottle of cologne...
And I thought how I used to steal my dad's cigarettes and tear them apart was bad.

I've recently began blogging again, and the subject matter is rather general thoughts while I work on refining my style and try to get out of the habit of shutting down when current events depress me. I'm working on a post about Duanna Johnson and TDOR (Trans Day of Remeberance) along with a post on privilege as a concept.

As far as current things I've written:

Logic Can Be Fun, a response to some conversations I have had with men who think their opinion means more in a debate than experience and fact.

There is more to me than this, a short examination of my insecurity regarding the cultural baggage of motherhood.

Babe In Total Control of Herself, ruminations on the word "bitch." Yeah, its been done to death, but it was bothering me, so I wrote about it.

Intolerance for tolerance sake in Jerusalem. Since my focus tends to be Middle East based, I'm throwing in an article about the demolition of an ancient Muslim cemetery to build a "Museum of Tolerance" in Jerusalem.

Sandalstraps said...

I've got a new post up this morning on Prop 8 and religious freedom; specifically on how ballot-initiatives like California Prop 8 threaten religious freedom by imposing part of a religious code on the general population.

frau sally benz said...

Ooooh, fancy! Thanks for the link love!

I am not objecting to either position, only to the fact that you seem to hold both of them at the same time.

Seriously?! If every little thing Renee (or anybody) said needed to be followed by some mention of "but I realize how grateful I am b/c some ppl don't have x, y, & z" there'd never be any time to talk about the issues.

It's not unusual to "hold both of them at the same time." I can complain about how I ate too much, without mentioning global poverty b/c chances are that I will think it to myself, keep it in mind for next time, and continue working towards ending poverty. Just b/c I don't mention it right then and there doesn't mean that I'm a horrible person, just as Renee is not. Particularly considering that she is the first to talk about what privileges she has and will list that as one of them.

The Unmarried Daughter said...

@AR

What the? Your....? How the....? I am at a loss of words for your audacity. Your comment boggles the mind because you forgot something important. Renee is um, human, with all the daily cares of a human. Granted, her humanity is played out in a Western society where she can go get out season fruit, and have concerns about indoor plumbing that her children wrecked with a seemingly frivolous western purchase, but that does not mean her concerns are trivial or not important.

This is akin to feminist concern trolls saying that feminists don't care about third world women because they are talking about sexism at fortune 500 corporations.

In fact, you are being nothing but a concern troll at the moment. And as a friend said to me when I when I tried to justify away a problem I was having by saying, "at least I am not living on the streets", and her reply, "well, perhaps not, but this is the worst you have ever had it, and that matters too." Basically, you are trying to minimize another human's experience and that is.so.not.cool.

Renee, I often said kids are so cute because otherwise we'd kill them.(said very tongue in cheek) And I love children, and understand why they do seemingly absolutely incomprehenisble things like put a bottle of cologne down the toilet. I am not in your house, so I don't know if your little guy did it for attention, or more of a scientific experiement. I will say that I personally feel based on my experiences babies and children are the world's greatest scientific researchers. I mean think of a the "science" your child got to research with this, Physics, mechinaics, behavioral psychology(as in your reaction) sociological(see what people do for a living!) And economics($250 to fix his experiment may or may not impact his supply of something he wants!). So, Renee, celebrate, you have a budding scientist on your hands!

I am reading a bunch of posts on hospital experiences as well as what I am calling Labor and Delivery rape stories. I am putting a lot of thought into becoming a patient advocate as my vocation.

mzbitca said...

I wrote two posts about adoption story lines on TV

One was about House's Dr. Cuddy and how badly I thought she behaved in the whole episode
http://mzbitca.wordpress.com/2008/11/06/this-may-sound-mean-but/

The other was about friend's where the same situation arose in some ways but was handled much more respectfully
http://mzbitca.wordpress.com/2008/11/09/a-slightly-better-executed-adoption-story-line/

My week was pretty stressful. I work in the mental health industry and I spent a whole week trying to advocate for a client in a system that seems to think there's nothing wrong with taking it's damn time when someone is trying to get into treatment so she can get her children back

Amber Rhea said...

I wrote about Google's "No Fly" list, where racism is apparently fine but sexual information is objectionable.

Also, a pep talk to myself and anyone else who might like to read it.

Anonymous said...

Wow. This is one about black male privilege. Would love to know what you all think of this one:

http://jewelwoods.com/node/9

Sorry, I don't know how to do the link. Cut and paste in your browser.

Sandalstraps said...

For those looking for a trivial and ridiculous distraction, with the help of a stupid Internet quiz, I've calculated that there's a 78% chance that my cat is trying to kill me.

AR said...

frau sally benz, The Unmarried Daughter, I agree with what you're saying, and would not have thought to attack small talk save for that the person making small talk is the same person who made this post, wherein she demands of others exactly what I am criticizing her for not doing here. It is only the hypocrisy that bothers me.

Sandalstraps said...

AR,

Let it go, will you?

I just read the post in question, and don't see you can read it as an attack on small talk. Rather it takes an opportunity to turn what started off as small talk into a discussion on the ethics of food distribution.

If you'd like to do the same, taking Renee's bit of small talk and turn it into a serious ethical discussion, feel free to do so. But thus far your contribution, far from shedding any light on any serious issue, is to point your finger at Renee and shout "nanny nanny boo boo!"

That makes me think that your protest really amounts to a silencing tactic.

The Unmarried Daughter said...

@AR

I didn't read your response, so I will ask you, did you contribute to Renee's request about leaving links to interesting readings?

What are you reading on the blog, anything illuminating or interesting on how concern trolls like to shut people but especially women of color up by pretending to be "worried" about a nondiscussion of privilege? I would love to see your links on that. Thanks.

AR said...

Sandalstraps: I just read the post in question, and don't see you can read it as an attack on small talk. Rather it takes an opportunity to turn what started off as small talk into a discussion on the ethics of food distribution.

Oh really?

The audacity of a western person having the nerve to complain about the colour of an orange when there are children that have never seen, never mind held an orange in their hands is something that needs to be acknowledged as privilege.

...

We should all pay attention, Deeky wants an orange that meets his specifications.

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Complaining about the shape of a fruit or the colour is ridiculous when we examine the global disparity.


More importantly, from her comments at Shakesville:

Boo freaking that you cannot get the imported food that you have become used to consuming. What about the women trading sex for food?

...discussing this without equally discussing the privilege in this conversation is an abdication of western privilege.


She does not merely use the discussion as a jumping-off point to discuss global hunger, she mocks and criticizes people for having the nerve to complain in the first place, or at the least not devoting equal space to those who are worse off.

All you people defending small-talk should direct your arguments to Renee, not me.

The Unmarried Daughter: I didn't read your response, so I will ask you, did you contribute to Renee's request about leaving links to interesting readings?

I don't need to have read interesting articles in the past week to see hypocrisy when I see it. But, if you want a link about the issue I did bring up, Obama's favoring of a big business bailout, I can provide one.

What are you reading on the blog, anything illuminating or interesting on how concern trolls like to shut people but especially women of color up by pretending to be "worried" about a nondiscussion of privilege?

I am only applying her very own standards of acknowledging privilege here. Like I said, this post by itself has nothing I'd object to.

Renee said...

@AR do you know for certiain that spending 250 dollars which btw about what I spend to feed my family of four for a week was not hardship for me? Do you know whether it is going to cost me bounce a mortgage payment, be late on a bill, of finance it on a predatory credit card? You don't, you are only assuming privilege because I am a western citizen.

In terms of the conversation with Deeky complaining about the quality of what he is able to consume is totally different than being forced into a situation to spend money that may or may not be affordable for me.

What you are doing is playing gotcha and it is stupid and ridiculous. The two situations are not remotely comparable. You don't here me complaining about the quality of something I purchased because that is denying the privilege inherent in having the ability to purchase. I am however complaining about an unintended expense which was certainly not based in some self serving desire. in case you are unaware if you shit in the streets in the western world you will get a ticket. it's not like I had even an outhouse to turn to. So enough, it's tired, old, silencing

AR said...

do you know for certiain that spending 250 dollars which btw about what I spend to feed my family of four for a week was not hardship for me? Do you know whether it is going to cost me bounce a mortgage payment, be late on a bill, of finance it on a predatory credit card? You don't, you are only assuming privilege because I am a western citizen.

The fact that you call those things "hardship" is enough to establish privilege.

Renee said...

@AR okay I'm done..seriously I cannot do the circle thing with you any longer. My patience is at the absolute end. BTW thanks for turning a thread on which I simply wanted people to share about themselves to help build a sense of community into a ridiculous debate about nothing but your desire to finger point.

Amber Rhea said...

OMFG... drop the Oppression Olympics, would you, AR??

AR said...

Amber Rhea, Oppression Olympics would be countering claims of oppression with assertions that, be that though it may, some other oppressed group has it worse, with it being implied that this somehow diminishes the oppression of the first group.

Charles said...

This week I've been re-watching episodes of the original Star Trek show. (Because I'm a total sci-fi nerd. So there.)

It's interesting stuff. What's struck me the most (aside from the fact that the good episodes are SO GOOD and the bad episodes are SO BAD) is that this show was so progressive for its time in so many ways (absurdity of the cold war, indictments of racial barriers, criticisms of capitalism, etc.), and yet it would never be made in today's world (and rightly so) because it is so backwards in terms of sexism.

In the last episode of the last season, it's explicitly stated that women aren't allowed to become starship captains. Throughout the show they discuss all the ways in which their 23rd-century society is so much more advanced than the barbarism of the 20th century -- and yet, the writers couldn't imagine putting a woman in a situation of command over men. Sure, they could run around in miniskirts, serve coffee to the captain, even run some essential functions of the ship. But you NEVER see a woman in engineering. And a woman in a command position? Absurd.

As Mr. Spock would say -- fascinating.

Renee said...

@Charles I am a huge star trek fan as well. In fact I was watching an episode of the old trek last night and it occurred to me that as progressive as the show was for its time it still played out the race hierarchy. Yes the actors came from different races however the captain was still a white male.

Charles said...

Renee,

There's definitely racism going on in Star Trek, but it's more understated and subtle. The sexism is just so out front and plain to see. Characters will say things like 'well after all is said and done she thinks like a woman' or 'the one thing in the galaxy a man can never understand is a woman' but you'll never hear them say 'thinks like a black person' or anything like that.

Gene Roddenberry was a good card-carrying liberal of his time. It was still acceptable to accept and promote essential gender differences, but not racial ones.

AR said...

Racism in Star Trek is actually very overt, it just uses the aliens as stand-ins for race. This article explores a bit of Star Treks racism in the last section.

"Race and culture are treated as synonymous and interchangeable concepts in Star Trek."