Thursday, February 26, 2009

Now Porn Comes Calling For Nadaya Suleman

image Nadaya Suleman is easily the most vilified mother in recent history.  She became famous for giving birth to eight children using invitro fertilization in January.  The media have stopped at nothing to portray her as an irresponsible nitwit too crazy to know what is in her own best interests.

It would be far too much to look at the cultural treatment of motherhood or the fact that we have long since socially abdicated responsibility for our children.  We are for more focused on forcing women to give birth to children that they do not want, than caring for the current children in existence.  Oh dear, someone might have to donate some of their tax dollars to helping a child when they  would be  so much better spent on fat pensions for bureaucrats who don’t serve the public need, foreign wars of aggression that have left untold numbers dead and damaged,  and bailing out companies like AIG who are once again begging for a new handout (private jet anyone?).   Let’s not talk about our social responsibilities, or our skewed sense of values, oh no lets persecute a poor woman for choosing to exercise her biological imperatives.

Finally when I thought I could not get anymore disgusted with the news stories surrounding this poor woman, the porn industry has reared its ugly exploitative head. Vivid Entertainment has offered her one million dollars to star in a porn movie.  Nadya is in deep financial trouble, the home that she lives in is about to be foreclosed on and the hospital has threatened to refuse to release her children to her.  The website that she created to give people the opportunity to help her struggling family has been ridiculed and all avenues of support have been radically slammed in her face. 

Well, clearly this woman is in need of some serious need,  and the porn industry just loves a vulnerable woman.  They have always been there to “extend aid” as long as a woman is willing to take off her clothes and become nothing more than a glory hole for men to fuck with wild abandon.  While I agree that some women actively choose this, when there is an issue of clear exploitation, porn and I clearly part ways.  How much is this media company going to make on this movie? Already the media is playing with potential titles for a movie that she has not even agreed to star in. 

Suleman has never stared in any porn movie and obviously with the pressing state of financial concerns and public rejection, she may have to take this offer to stave off financial ruin for her large family.  Should this woman who has been repeatedly judged decide that this is what she needs to do to support her family, one can certainly rest assured that this will be yet another opportunity for society to rip her shreds and shame her for not being the “perfect mommy”.  No one wants to help her but if she takes the only avenue available to her, she will be  by default a terrible person. 

This issue is so much larger than Nadya and her 14 children.  This is about the right of women to have autonomy over their bodies and our social obligation to care for all children.  This is about women not being forced to make “choices”
that are harmful to them to ensure the subsistence of their families.  Suleman is a vulnerable woman and if we look closely we can all see a little bit of ourselves reflected in her.


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