Saturday, March 21, 2009

Queerty Needs To Stop Minding Queen Latifah's Business

image Lord knows I loves me some Queen Latifah and happy belated birthday sister.  She has become iconic and her talent is an inspiration to us all.  As you can see from their tag line Queerty a major GLBT blog (and the “T” is questionable) claims to be free of agenda however, this statement is far from true.

image Without a direct declaration from the Queen, they have decided that she is a lesbian.  Note, if the woman is gay that is her business and it is not the right of an organization or an individual to declare her sexuality for her.  They decided to take the following commentary as a justification to declare her sexuality.

I [used to] ingratiate myself to him and then sleep with him. Afterward, I felt disgusting- really gross and nasty … and I hated myself. That feeling was so horrible, I decided I would never do that again."

If she had meant the statement to apply to all men, she would have said so.  Twisting her words to suit an agenda is not only inappropriate, it deprives her of her agency.  I do understand why there is a desire to claim the Queen;  she is not only beautiful, she is extremely talented. 

Like Anderson Cooper there have been non stop rumours about her sexuality for years.  People need to learn what is and isn’t their business. The GLBT community has no problem telling people that the state has no right integrating itself into the bedrooms of consenting adults however, some cannot seem to apply that same rule to others.  If you don’t want people in your bedroom stay the hell out of the bedroom of others.

The need to declare is a part of what keeps the gay/straight binary alive.  Heterosexuality is the assumed default sexuality and gays and lesbians are expected to announce to the world that they are not straight.   If she is a lesbian, living her life on her own terms and allowing people to speculate without commentary flies in the face of the idea that one must announce a sexuality to the world.   The Queen continues to live her life unperturbed by the speculation and this should be acknowledged as an act of resistance.  Unless you are sleeping with the person in question whether they are gay, straight, bi, two spirited, or trans is simply not your business. 

There are plenty of people that are openly gay and lesbian that are leading lives in which they are desperately in need of help .   There is little discussion of the teens that get kicked out of their homes when they come out to their parents.  There is little discussion about those whose appearance is non gender conforming and the issues they face in housing and employment and yet a woman that has not declared that she is a lesbian has been a topic for years within the GLBT community.  Can we take a moment please to get priorities together?

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