Saturday, December 26, 2009

Happy Kwanzaa (Kwanzaa yenu iwe na heri!)


Today is the first day of Kwanzaa.  Today’s principle is Unity (umoja)

To strive for and maintain unity in the family, community, nation and race.

There are seven principles in total:

Self Determination (Kujichagulia)

To define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves and speak for ourselves.

Collective Work & Responsibility (Ujima)

To build and maintain our community together and to make our Brother's and sister's problems, our problems and to solve them together.

Cooperative Economics (Ujamaa)

To build and maintain our own stores, shops and other businesses and to profit from them.

Purpose (Nia)

To make as our collective vocation the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness.

Creativity (Kuumba)

To do always as much as we can, in the way that we can, in order to leave our community more beautiful than when we inherited it.

Faith (Imani)

To believe with all our hearts in our parents, our teachers, our leaders, our people and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.

Each day we focus on and celebrate a new principle.

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It is a time of reflection upon our struggles and how we can move forward as a people.  For those seeking more information please see this link. The following is an excerpt from Dr. Maulana Karenga Kwanzaa message.

In the spirit of the steadfast faith of our ancestors, let us meditate on and give ever-deeper meaning in actual practice to this Kwanzaa wish of good and prayerful request of our ancestors: May we speak truth and do justice everywhere. May we always evaluate rightfully and not act in disregard of the sacred and the people. May we enter praised and leave loved everywhere we go. May our speech be wholesome and without blame or injury to others. May we reject evil and embrace joy. May we live a lifetime of peace. And may we pass in peace having done Maat and brought good in the world”.

Dear Americans This Time It Is In Our House

I thought all of you Americans could use a little historical flashback with the Olympics coming.

This time, you are coming to play OUR GAME in OUR HOUSE.  The attack beavers have been prepared.  Don’t you wish that you could say I AM CANADIAN? WOOOT

You might as well call in sick right now.

Friday, December 25, 2009

Merry Christmas


I just wanted to take the time to wish everyone a Merry Christmas.  Above is a picture of my Christmas tree before the boys attacked it this morning.  I hope that everyone has a safe and happy holiday.

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Happy Festivus For The Rest Of Us

What would Christmas eve be without a nod to Festivus?  Happy holidays folks!!

George Michael: Celebrity, Body Image and Doubts

image I heard Careless Whispers at about the age of 10 and promptly fell head over heels in love with George Michael.  Some people grew up with Madonna or Michael Jackson but for me, George Michael would provide the soundtrack of my life.  I know the lyrics by heart to most of his songs and have loved each incarnation he has presented to the world.  From Careless Whispers to Amazing I have danced, cried, loved and lost and George Michael has been a constant on my journeys.

When you love a celebrity, it is often hard to remember that there is a real person behind the glitz and glamour.  It is so easy to buy the image because honestly that is all that the big machine really wants you to see and let’s face it, human frailty is not stuff of fantasy is it?

I recently watched a biography that he did called Different Story.  At the end of the film he had this to say:

“Funnily enough, just in the last year, I am starting to become comfortable with the way that I look which is really almost disastrous isn’t it?  What’s the point in discovering that you look okay when you’re 41?  You know what I mean”.

I repeatedly played back these few lines thinking about body images.  This is a man that has millions of fans.  When Faith was released in the states he reached a level of celebrity that few ever manage to achieve. It was like a George Michael super nova.   How in the face of all of that success could someone possibly be insecure?

His commentary shows us that no matter where we fit on the scale of privilege, power, the world is designed to create doubt.  Now some may believe that this is a necessary function in order to keep a man like George Michael humble, however; should anyone worry about their body when other than a few cosmetic changes, we can really do nothing to alter how it is perceived by others?

image When I think of male beauty and raw sex appeal, I think of George Michael and it absolutely floored me to hear that he had doubts regarding his body.  When we think of the ways in which we are continually being disciplined, I suppose his commentary makes sense.  His life must be like living in one huge panopticon; each and every single action is viewed, commented upon and dissected as though we are not dealing with a person but a lab rat of sorts.

This happens to us all though on a much smaller scale.  The self doubts that we feel don’t really belong to us as individuals; they are a manifestation of a society holding impossible standards to imperfect beings.  No matter how much we work, dream or beg, it is a sliding scale that we can never hope to measure up to.  Even the images of the celebrities that we have chosen to uplift often have been so photoshopped that their bodies no longer look human.

Issues dealing with body image have historically been attached to women because we have only been viewed as important based on physical attraction.  As standards become more and more ridiculous, men are beginning to feel the strain of being mere mortals on a plane that demands divine beauty. For the first time we are hearing about men having eating disorders and the pressure to perform masculinity.  Perhaps the next big business boom will  be selling men products that they don’t need to comfort the feelings of inferiority that have been purposefully created. Will we see useless skin creams promising them that they will look like virile young studs at the age of 45?

It is interesting that now that George Michael is older that he has come to terms with his physical appearance because aging is often a difficult thing for women.  I say this as a woman that has rolled back her age for quite sometime now.  I fully intend to keep celebrating the anniversary of my thirtieth birthday for at least another decade.  The problem with beauty as power is that it is a declining power and therefore those of us who were able to ignore the initial onslaught of beauty discipline quickly succumb as we are perceived as aging and therefore less attractive.

The truth is that no matter how special, talented or beautiful, each of us are viewed as replaceable by the machine that is always looking for the next new thing.  Media commentators will question whether or not someone is still relevant but in truth, their value or contribution has not diminished, we just have an addiction to the shiny nouveau. Though George Michael often speaks about the demise of youth culture I think that in truth, youth is even more of a fixation because it is at that time in our lives that we are as close to perfection as we will ever be.  Even as we decry the foolishness and the inexperience of youth, we crave it.  In youth our bodies have not depreciated, there are not tell tale laugh lines or crows feet; only fitness and vigour.

There are some gender commentators who would point to the body disciplining of men as a step towards equality.  What a wonderful world now that both genders can exist with self doubt and angst…yeah sign me up for a double slab of that pie.  What it should symbolize to us is just how far we have moved away from any sort of self contentment or honesty about the limitations of humanity.  We can try to calm ourselves with platitudes about inner beauty but that is not going to protect the fat woman or the balding man with the beer belly from having to hear tee hee and rude commentary while they are trying to do something as simple as buying some fucking groceries.  We feed the machine everyday because it is a demanding task master.  At some level, we must enjoy this angst because we repeatedly reproduce it of our own accord.  One may point at the media or education but WE ARE those entities. 

I am glad George Michael has finally found some measure of comfort and maybe one day I can get me some happy and stop feeding the machine.  Until that day, I stand before you imperfect and deeply flawed.  But I am human and living and breathing every moment of my existence.

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Lou Jing Is Too Black For China’s Go! Oriental Angel

"After the contest started, I often got more attention than the other girls. It made me feel strange," Lou said.

The reality show hosts fondly called her "chocolate girl" and "black pearl." The Chinese media fixated on her skin color. Netizens flooded Web sites with comments saying she "never should have been born" and telling her to "get out of China."

Lou Jing's background became fodder for national gossip, sparking a vitriolic debate about race across a country that, in many respects, can be quite homogenous. There are 56 different recognized ethnic groups in China, but more than 90 percent of the population is Han Chinese. So people who look different stand out.

"We lived in a small circle before," said her mother. "But after Lou was seen nationwide, some Chinese people couldn't accept her."

It has been a shocking ordeal for someone who says she always considered herself just like every other Chinese girl.

No matter where in the world you live, Blackness is always to some degree a stigmatized identity.  We could argue that some of the issues with Lou originate in the near homogenised nature of Chinese society but does this really excuse a direct attack on a young girl because she is different? As much as this is about race, this is also about the continual understanding that difference necessarily implies inferiority.  No matter the culture, all bodies must adhere to what is considered the norm to be understood as valuable.  Difference can take the form of race, gender, sexuality, age or ability; it only need stand as a marker of out group status to create the individual in question as “other.”

Unfortunately for Lou, there are not enough Black people to form a community to help her deal with the issues of racism that she is living with.  In the West, one of the few comforts from the dehumanizing attacks of racism is the  solidarity of those living with the same marginalization as you.  Lou is virtually alone and therefore attacks against her must be all that more polarizing.  The very fact that she needs to explain her existence to others proves how unwilling the Chinese are to accept her.

Ideally, a mixed raced body should be able to identify anyway they choose, however in a world that is far too interested in maintaining division such a right is often denied.  Unless a mixed race body has the ability to pass as part of the dominant group, it is more likely that they will be placed into the position of the marginalized body whether or not their experiences dictate that as the correct placement or not.  Lou is Chinese, she was born in China of a Chinese mother and yet this identification is denied her.  S/he who has the power to name or label controls society. 

There are many things that go into making our identity.  Though we like to think of ourselves as individuals, who and what are is a function of the discourse into which we are born.  We are constantly being disciplined into performing behaviours and this is a practice we continue until death.  For Lou, identity shame is the overriding message.  Like many other marginalized bodies she will have to rise above simply to exist but this will not be without its consequences.  Fighting each day is exhausting and for many, capitulation and the internalization of negative stereotypes is easier than continuing the struggle.The moment this becomes a truism, one becomes complicit in the social degradation.  For Lou, it is a question of whether she has the mettle for the ride because it will certainly not stop for one moment.

Wednesday What’s Up?


Well it is hump day;  after today it is all downhill.  Please use this thread to chat about how your week is going.  What have you been reading and have you seen a movie you would like to recommend?  The posting has been light this week because I have been trying to get the last minute stuff done for Christmas.  The boys are home from school which is also demanding a ton of my attention.  Let me know what you have going  on and I will meet you in the comments section.

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Tavis Smiley Publishes R. Kelly’s Book

image Last year at his negro superbowl state of the Black union, Mr. Smiley made a point of repeatedly using the word accountable to promote his book and his political positions  Well, I do believe that it is time that we hold Mr. Smiley accountable for his actions.  Smiley has often appeared to show concern for the issues currently facing the Black community, however; his efforts often end in some sort of self promotion, which undoubtedly benefits him. What good could possibly come from publishing the work of a man that was filmed having sex with an underage girl?  What exactly is he trying to promote by doing this, except for the fattening of his own wallet?

Though Kelly was acquitted of all charges, his insistent interest in young girls and women speaks of man that clearly has a predatory nature.  Yes, I have not forgotten about Aaliyah.  Though his fans spent large amounts of time slut shaming the young girl he was caught on tape with, the point of the matter is that this relationship could not possibly have been equal because of the age differential between the two?  What is it about young girls that continues to draw his interest?  Could it be the ability to use his fame and male privilege to his advantage?

You will note that he needs to qualify the word teenager.  Sure he has friends that are nineteen, now that his predatory ass has been tried.  “If you was charged with something and you was found innocent, then you can’t be found guilty for having been found innocent.”  Alright, getting a not guilty verdict  is not the same as being innocent.  It means, that you were found not guilty because there was not enough evidence to prove your guilt in a court of law.  This is in no way a vindication.  You can ask O.J about that one.

Apparently, with the help of celebrity author David Ritz, Kelly will write about the loss of his mother, the creative process behind hits such as “I Believe I Can Fly” and “You Are Not Alone,” as well as discuss his six year legal ordeal.  It must have been trying for him, poor baby; we will just ignore what the young girl went through.  It seems that we find it easier to show sympathy for the predator, than we do the victim and only in this unbalanced state could it be possible for Tavis Smiley to believe that it is an excellent idea to offer this man a platform to tell his story.

In the debate regarding the issues that continue to face the Black community, quite often there is a fixation on the issues of Black masculinity, thereby; creating Black women as invisible.  You cannot heal the Black community, until you first deal with the crimes that are committed against Black women.  The slut shaming, rapes, physical violence, emotional abuse and sexism, that Black women face everyday are a virus to our community.  Black women are the mothers of Black children and are therefore the foundation upon which the community is built, however; this simple fact routinely gets ignored to promote the Black male patriarchy.  Not only has R Kelly not received justice for his actions, he will profit from them through the enabling of Mr. Hold’em Accountable Smiley.

R. Kelly may have avoided penalty for his actions but it is certain that just like any other predator, he will return to this behaviour.  It is a compulsion that has been documented time and time again.  The lyrics of his songs take on new meaning when we understand that they are not aimed at  women, they are aimed at vulnerable children.   This sickness is what Tavis not only seeks to promote but profit from.  Is there no limit to the depravity in the name of a buck?  At some point we need to look inward and hold our own community accountable and if Tavis Smiley is not willing to do this, then we need to band together and forcefully denounce this horror.  If young Black girls don’t matter to the Black community, who will hear them when they cry out in pain?

See What About Our Daughters for further information

H/T Gemna

Tune in Tuesday: Watching The Wheels John Lennon

This is one of my favourite John Lennon songs.  When I worked outside of the home, the company that I worked for had an awful soundtrack that they played daily but fortunately this song was on it.  I would hear it and for as long as it was playing, I could pretend that I was in a happier place.  It would always upset me if they played this song when I was on break because I knew that for the most part, the rest of the day would be filled with torture music. John Lennon is responsible for some of the worlds most wonderful music in my humble opinion.  It is a testament to how great he was that all these years later that his music still stands the test of time.  It does not feel dated or out of place and stands heads and tails above some of the current hits. What is your favourite Lennon song and why is it special to you?

A Spark of Wisdom: On apologies, ignorances and condemnations

image This is a guest post from Sparky, of  Spark in Darkness.  Many of you are  familiar with him from Livejournal, as well as from his insightful and often hilarious commentary here. Each Tuesday, Womanist Musings will be featuring a post from Sparky.

Ah, the tools of the privileged who realise they've just been wallowing in some extreme prejudice and the stains are making them look bad. Quickly they resort to apologies, claims of ignorance and fierce condemnation of bigotry.

And, of course, that's not in any way a bad thing. Ye gods it is not! And everyone who sloughs off even a little of their prejudiced thinking and becomes a little more aware of their privileges is a victory for humanity. These are wonderful times and every incident is to be celebrated- and the person waking up should be welcomed and hailed and praised.

image BUT we're not stupid. We know when you're covering yourself, back-peddling or just making a press release. We know the difference between a "My prejudice hurts so many people! I'm so sorry!" And "Damn, this is making me look bad! I'm so sorry!" Don't expect us to hail you as an ally, friend or no longer an enemy because you have the PR savvy  to smile and make pretty speeches. Don't expect us to accept you as sincere if your 'tolerance' is about YOUR image rather than OUR pain.


First of all we need to define what this word actually means - what an apology actually means.

A genuine apology is an expression of REMORSE. That's it. Hopefully it will be backed up with a decent degree of genuine gestures and attempts at correction.

This means, firstly, that if your words or actions show a complete lack of remorse (e.g. "sorry you're offended." because, seriously why not just say "I think you're too touchy" and have done with it - at least it'd be HONEST) or you repeat the offence then your 'sorry' is a waste of time/breath/keystrokes. and will likely be treated with the contempt it deserves.

An apology is not a demand for forgiveness. We do not have a duty to forgive just because you've uttered a word. Marginalised people are not obliged to expiate the guilt of the privileged people who hurt us.

An apology does not cleanse offence, heal wounds or mend damage. Do not expect any of these to go away just because you've said sorry. Do not expect us to forget it happened, do not expect us not to be effected by these actions.

Sorry also does not mean "shut up." If we're discussing an action of privilege or prejudice, especially one that has hurt us, you can't throw in a "sorry" and expect us all to belt up and be quiet. You can't hurt us, throw in a sorry, and expect us to shut up. Do not expect us to drop a subject, drop the anger, drop the offence because you have decided to say sorry. ESPECIALLY if there is severe doubt of your sincerity.

image Too often an apology is cynically used as a tool to silence marginalised people - you say sorry and that's supposed to be the end of it right? Never mind that there is still a complete lack of understanding. Never mind the lack of sincerity. Never mind the total indifference. Never mind the repeat occasions. never mind the hurt, the offence, the pain that has been caused. Never mind what this says about broader culture, society and the experience of marginalised people. Someone said sorry. We can end that discussion on racism/sexism/homophobia/transphobia/etc and move onto something the privileged person cares about. I mean, they said 'sorry' right? Oh my gods, what more do you marginalised folk want? It's like you want something to be about you for 5 minutes!

Say sorry because you mean it. And if you mean it that means you CARE and will listen and will try to learn. Don't say sorry so you can close the whole subject and move on because you're uncomfortable/it's making you look bad.


This is another common tool - say/do something grossly offensive and then claim utter ignorance. Claim you never knew it happened, claim you never knew it was offensive, etc.

And sometimes it's genuinely true. And we should help people who are genuinely ignorant. But if you hurt someone or offended them inadvertently then you need to sit down and listen and be willing to be taught that it was offensive and WHY. If you're not willing to listen, not willing to learn then your ignorance is wilful. By refusing to learn you are saying that you didn't know - you're saying that you don't care and have no problems about hurting them again.

There's also a difference between being genuinely ignorant and being wilfully ignorant (or, frankly, lying). We've seen some amazing claims of ignorance - we saw pictures of the White House lawn covered in watermelons, Obama presented as a monkey (and if you're even THINKING of pointing out Bush was compared to a chimp PLEASE buy a clue, open google and do some research on image cultural context) or the times I've seen people tell me 'faggot' isn't offensive or the times I've seen people misgender transpeople. I've seen all of these quickly followed by a not-apology saying "I didn't know it was offensive!"

Bullshit, to be frank. It is boggling to me to believe for one second that ANYONE in the modern, western world could possibly be unaware that these were offensive. Seriously, there are aliens on the planet Zog watching our planet with ever increasing horror that know this crap is offensive. I find it hard to believe that these claims of ignorance here are anything but lies.

But if they're not lies? If they're genuine? Then they're still inexcusable. Because the only way you could possibly be that ignorant is by not only being inured in privilege - but by utterly wallowing in it. Only a complete and utter dismissive indifference towards marginalised people could create such an attitude of clueless ness. And that? That is seriously not ok.


Condemnation is important. Yes, we can't expect everyone to condemn every piece of silliness in the world - we'd be doing nothing else if so.

But - if people have a reason (a good reason) to believe you may support that crap - especially if you represent an organisation that IS supporting that crap, you have supported it in the past or you have supported crap that is very similar to the current crap in an amazing craptastic fashion - then yes, people are going to expect you to open your mouth and say how very very wrong it is.

But like the above two your sincerity matters. If you're condemning something just to make your critics shut up or because you're afraid you're starting to look bad - then that doesn't mean we're going to take you seriously. We're not fools.

If you're only moved to condemn a disgraceful piece of bigotry after people are outraged and especially if they're criticising you - then why should we take it seriously? Covering your own arse is not a laudable action.

image If you suddenly decide to condemn a piece of bigotry you've supported, worked on and played cheerleader for right until the moment you decide to leap from that sinking ship - yeah, we're not going to take you seriously either.

We don't owe you kudos, consideration or praise because you've got the brains to jump from a sinking ship. You get no praise for managing your own PR and you don't dodge criticism because you're good at covering yourself.

We're not fools. We know when we're being pandered to and we know when we're being silenced. We know when a gesture is sincere and when it's being used to divert or distract. We know when pretty words are used to cover hateful actions. We know when a smile is used to cover hatred and bigotry.

We know when you're sincere. And we know when you just want us to shut the hell up.

Monday, December 21, 2009

I Like To Moo

I decided to wake everyone’s favourite Gus aka Allison McCarthy with this little  ditty; professing my undying love.

Can you believe that she wasn’t amused?  Who wouldn’t want to wake up to that.

Kanye and Lady GaGa Come Out Of The Jungle


The above photo was taken by David LaChappelle.  Is it ringing any warning bells for anyone, or is this just another example of how we celebrate the wonderful post racial world that we are supposedly living in?

We have evolved so much that showing a Black man looking like a zombie in a jungle carrying a naked blonde is no longer problematic.  We will just ignore the fact that he does not look human and his body has clearly been photoshopped (sorry Kanye those are NOT your abs), thus creating him as a mindless creature. For her part, GaGa plays a wonderful helpless White woman trapped in the arms of the mindless savage doesn’t she? There are certainly no tropes  played out in this photo that continue to be socially relevant are there?

The Black man is not constructed at losing his mind at the sight of naked White females.  He is not understood as a predator and a rapist.  White women don’t perceive Black men as a threat and all is honky dory in make believe land.  This is not just a piece of performance art, it is an affirmation of all of the negative stereotypes associated with Black masculinity; no wonder a brother still can’t catch a cab. 

To ensure that the message is clear, they are in a lovely jungle setting.  Gee, I wonder where they got that ever so original idea?  Certainly it couldn’t be from the social understanding that Blacks are savage animal creatures?  Are we supposed to just admire the flora and the erupting volcano and forget the message that this sends us? I am surprised they didn’t have a monkey swinging from a tree to complete the look.   Oh careful Missy Ann, a Black man will overwhelm you.

I am so sick of images like this from supposedly liberal people.  There is nothing ironic about the perpetuation of racism.  It does not show a level of understanding about how painful racism is and the fact that it continues to be the foundation of undeserved White privilege.  Reifying harmful social tropes only serves to substantiate the second class standing of Blacks.  Using art which has historically been a means to challenge social conventions in this way renders it useless as a form of transformative social commentary.

Challenging Homophobia On “Big Love”

image “Big Love” is  a modern day sitcom based on the life of practicing fundamentalist Mormons in Utah.  Alby Grant, played by Matt Ross, was beaten last season in a bathroom after seeking anonymous sex with a man.  This interesting plot twist came to light after the Mormons vigorous opposition to same sex marriage.

Alby Grant has multiple wives and believes in the principal, yet he is drawn into dangerous positions in order to fulfill his sexual yearnings.  Can one possibly be gay and Mormon, especially if you belong to the fundamentalist section of the Church? Roman Grant, Alby’s father, has repeatedly defended the practice of polygamy by saying that it is just like same sex marriage and therefore not the business of the state.  Considering the opposition of the Mormon Church to same sex marriage, using it as a defence of polygamy on the show evidences the ways in which supporting privilege ignores the ways in which all manner of isms are supported.

Throughout the show, Alby’s interest in men has routinely been alluded to.  His obvious disdain for homosexuality speaks of an internalized hatred that is extremely damaging. Though “Big Love” is a sitcom, there are most certainly gay Mormons whose sexuality is in direct conflict with the stated beliefs of the church.  Because the church is all encompassing, those that do come out risk excommunication and being cut off from their family and  friends; this binds the gay members of the Church.

The new season of “Big Love” is set to air in January.  According to MNBC, “The first episode of the new season involves Alby, a son of the leader of a fictional polygamist group, in a "close encounter" with a male trustee. Both have been struggling with their sexuality.”   Apparently, the Mormon Church has already put out a statement reminding people that “Big Love” is just a work of fiction.  The Church doctrine is decidedly homophobic and sees gay sex as sinful behaviour.

The character Alby is certainly evil.  He threatens innocent people to get his way and he is desperate to become the prophet.  There are few redeeming aspects of his personality, however; his conflict is certainly something that is experienced by some Mormons.  The upcoming season promises to be controversial, not because there is something inherently wrong with homosexuality but because of the stand that the Mormon Church has taken against it.  Though fictional, the exploration of Alby’s sexuality is a recognition of the fact that within its midst, those that the church abhors are worshipping alongside them in pain.

The focus of fundamentalist Christians on sexuality reveals a form of perversion.  Reading through the bible it is quite clear that are a multitude of sins that most modern people are guilty of on a daily basis.  Though fundamentalists have chosen to fixate on sexuality,  Jesus did not utter a single word against it in the New Testament.  Their fixation with sexuality in deed speaks of a desire to enforce gender roles, as well as discipline bodies that do not conform, thus placing them in a position of power socially. 

If we were turn against everyone who broke supposed biblical rules, we would have a society of pariahs. It will be interesting to see if in the end the producers decide to allow Alby to be himself.   Succumbing to the  anti-gay sentiment of the Church empowers them.   Whether you know it or not, chances are that at some point you have befriended, interacted or worked beside a member of the GLBT community.   By forcing its members to remain closeted, the Mormon church not only causes pain, it refuses to acknowledge that they do indeed possess love for someone that they hate.  It is much harder to deny the rights and humanity of someone you love when they are not an abstract idea. 

Monday: Making The Best Out Of It


Well, another Monday has made it’s way around.  I know that some of you are currently buried under tons of snow.  Right now the flurries are falling here and I am already grouchy.  I don’t need a white Christmas; winter and I are not friends.   At any rate, please use this thread to chat about your weekend or whine about the fact that it is Monday and I will join you in the comments section.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Sunday Shame: Teenage Angst Edition

Destruction is turning nine in May.  I know it is early but I highly suspect that he has already started the evil process of puberty.  Yes, the chickens have come home to roost and prepubescent angst rules my household.  He has yet to get to the sulky stage where you play the same songs, repeatedly raging at the world around you but I know that it is coming.  As I was contemplating the evils of puberty, it made me think about the songs I used to listen to when I was a walking hormone without a coherent thought in my head.

and of course since I have always been a faithful girl the other song I raged to was:

To this day I still know all of the words to both of these songs and have been known to belt them out at Karaoke or in the shower.  Yes, I sing Karaoke, laugh, get it out of your system, move on. 

I was a child of the eighties and so you know musically there were not a lot of options.  It was big hair all the way.  Today the moody sulky music has much advanced beyond Tears for Fears, but at the time no one better expressed the agony of my teenage years.  Of course at the time I had to listen them separately because I was supposed to be listening to Big Daddy Kane and LL Cool J while working on my ridiculous swagger.  Yep, I was cool, baggy red harem pants and enough angst to be just beyond irritating.   EMO

Okay, now that I have revealed my teenage shame, it’s your turn to share.  What music where you listening to in your youth that you felt best expressed your teenage angst.   Let the hairspray fly (for those of you in my generation) or the blackness of goth or whatever you thing was in the comment section.