Below you will find a video that is extremely graphic. A Dutch man stabs his wife repeatedly, while witnesses attempt to pull him off of her. The video is potentially triggering and extremely violent.
At the time of the crime, the woman was 22 years old and today she has permanent injuries due to the assault. The witnesses were only able to pull him off of her because he got too tired to stab her anymore. The above video was used in court and he was sentenced to four years in prison. The assailant is due to be released in a few weeks.
The reason that I chose to post this video is the high amount of apologism that I see offered continually when women are victims of violence. When Chris Brown beat Rihanna, many were quick to blame her for instigating the violence. We remove ourselves from the role of victim and therefore completely ignore their experience.
When I watched this video I was horrified and I believe that is how we should all feel. Every time you think about excusing violence against women, I want you to think about this video. Imagine yourself lying helplessly below your husband, as he attempts to murder you. Imagine the pain and the fear. Experience it in its totality and then realize that nothing you feel, comes close to how this woman felt during the assault.
Comedians make jokes about domestic violence, and facebook pages have been dedicated to minimizing its impact. This video reifies the horror of domestic violence and the very next time someone chooses to pretend that this is not horrible and a crime, I intend to share this video with them. Once you have seen you cannot un-see, once you have learned you cannot un-learn and once you hear you cannot un-hear. Domestic violence is real and we laugh and minimize it to our own detriment.