Thursday, July 8, 2010

Now Mel Gibson Admits to Hitting Oksana, How Long Until We Forgive Him?

When it was revealed last week that Mel Gibson went off on another racist tirade, I didn't blog about it because it got extensive media coverage.  Even Jessie Jackson got on his bullhorn to call the Brave heart star out. Even a celebrity of Mel Gibsons calibre cannot get away with saying:

"You look like a fucking pig in heat, and if you get raped by a pack of niggers, it will be your fault."

He stated that after threatening to burn her house down and demanding that she suck his dick before he did it. Sounds charming doesn't it?  Mel Gibson had no problem saying any of this because his entire life has been about privilege.  With the star clout and money that he has now, few will openly oppose him.  I wondered at the time this tape was released, what had prompted Oksana to record him in the first place.  No one walks around with a device to record someone, without being inspired to do so by previous behaviour. 

Today, radaronline has revealed the source of Oksana's inspiration.  It seems that Gibson hit her when she was holding their child.
On tape, a teary Oksana is heard asking Mel, “What kind of a man is that who would hit a woman when she is holding a child in her hands, hitting her twice in the face?

“What kind of a man is that?” the Russian musician repeats.

The Braveheart star responds: “You know what — you f**cking deserved it.”
At this time, nothing that Mel Gibson does surprises me.  He is cruel, abusive and drunk on privilege.  Of course he is not responsible for his actions, it was her behaviour that drove him to act violently -- and this is the standard line that all abusers use, because they don't want to take responsibility for their actions.

It makes me wonder what his ex wife endured being married to this man for so many years, and if she sees her divorce as an escape.  I cannot help but think of the children that have the misfortune of having this man as a father and wonder what terrible lessons they have learned from him. Ordinarily, when one is a child of a celebrity, it is assumed that they are living a life of opulence, despite the various tell all books and movies that have revealed that celebrity parents have been cruel and abusive in many ways (think Bing Crosby).  We buy into the carefully constructed image that the media creates, and never think to look beyond the facade unless we are forced to -- and even then, the most heinous actions are almost always forgiven (think of the bid to forgive Chris Brown)

What I wonder, is how long it will take for Gibson to rehabilitate his image?  The moment news slips off the front page, we are quick to forget about it and become obsessed with the next breaking news cycle.  For instance: when we think of Sean Connery, we think of 007 and various action movies, but seldom will people comment on the following:
Speculation about Connery's supposedly rough treatment of his first wife was sparked by two separate comments given to magazine interviews. In 1965 he told Playboy: "I don't think there is anything particularly wrong in hitting a woman, though I don't recommend you do it the same way that you hit a man."

In another interview, this time with Vanity Fair in 1993, he said: "Sometimes there are women who take it to the wire. That's what they are looking for, the ultimate confrontation. They want a smack."
Charlie Sheen continues to star in "Two and a Half Men," one of the highest rated shows on television, despite repeated incidents of violence.  When viewers see Charlie, they see a lovable bad boy rogue, and not the violent man that he really is.  In fact, his ex-wife and mother of his children were blamed publicly for HIS violence.   "Baby Wipes" Terrence Howard was featured in Ebony as a "renaissance man," despite having a record for beating his wife because she hurt his poor wittle feelings.

Time after time, we have seen celebrities go through a brief period of being held accountable for their actions, and then the public seems to stop caring. We go back to watching their movies or television shows and buying their music.  With the money that we spend, we are offering support of their behavior, even if we have previously verbally condemned it.  I think the question is not can Mel Gibson's career recover, but how long it will be before his next hit movie.