Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Enough - homophobia is not a gay-on-gay problem

This is a guest post from Sparky, of Spark in Darkness.  Many of you are  familiar with him from Livejournal, as well as from his insightful and often hilarious commentary here. Each Tuesday, Womanist Musings will be featuring a post from Sparky.
 Look, I like me the schadenfreude pie, I really do. It's sweet, it's tasty and it's so sinfully good.

And yes, when an anti-gay politician/religious leader/arsehole is outed then I have me a happy dance. Not because he is outed and not because he is gay - but because that is an enemy disarmed. And these people do too much damage for me not to celebrate their downfalls, even while I pity them,

But - do you know what? All homophobes are not gay.

And when anyone says something homophobic and does something homophobic, it is not the time to jump up and say "that guy must be gay."

Because homophobia does not originate in the gay community. And straight folk do not get to pass the buck and decide that all this homophobic bullshit is coming from our own community.

Get this, those closeted self-hating and hating us all gay folks? They're a product of straight society, a product of the heteronormative, homophobic society that straight people created and enforce.

And y'know what? The vast majority of homophobes are straight. The vast majority of the law makers that oppress us, of the arseholes who rally against us, of the religions that screech hate at us, and of the brutal bastards who hunt us down, beat us and even kill us - THEY ARE STRAIGHT.

The existence of closeted gay homophobes does NOT show that homophobia comes from gay people - it shows how powerful and damaging homophobia can be to gay people.

You do not get to pass the responsibility for our oppression and persecution onto us. We should not tolerate the idea that it is the victims who are doing the victimising here.

Homophobia is a product of straightness. Homophobia was a creation of straightness. Homophobia is perpetuated, honoured and enforced by straightness.

So enough. Yes it started out as amusing and I've even done it myself in the past, but it's become too prevalent and too damaging. Enough. Enough of when a homophobic arsehole is outed saying "ah-ha I knew it." Enough of saying "when's he going to be caught with a rent boy" when some bigot opens his mouth and lets the bigotry spill out. Enough of trying to blame gay people for homophobia. Enough trying to deny the responsibility of straightness for anti-gay bigotry.

Homophobia is not a gay-on-gay problem. Let us stop this idea now.