Monday, August 1, 2011

Apology

Okay, most of you are aware of the fact that I had some very insensitive things to say in a post entitled, A Look At the Documentary Dear Daddy: The Voices of Children Without Fathers.  Much of my language in the post and the  comment section was exclusionary and for that I apologize.  I know that initial reaction was anger and that alone should have been a big indicator that privilege was playing a role in response, but like a jerk I just decided to show my entire ass to the world.  I know that my comments made the very space that I have worked so hard to be safe unsafe, and for this I am truly sorry. When it comes to both my straight and cis privilege, I have a lot of work to do.

Here's the thing, I can't promise you that I won't do it again and not because I am not sorry, but because challenging privilege is a lifetime journey.  In fact, I am positive that I will once again show my ass, lose my temper, be told off, and then come slinking back saying I am sorry, because that is how learning happens. It's rough and it sucks, but that is the process, or I should say at least it is for me.  The only thing I can promise you without a doubt, is that I learn from my mistakes and am better for it.  So thanks for the cuss out that I so richly deserved.

On a final note, to those of you who thought to use my race against me, if you ever fucking do that again I will ban you.  I get that I was being a pig, but how the fuck dare you even remotely suggest I a) took pleasure in talking about racism or b) hate White women but give White men a pass.  You were just as piggish as me and you owe me an apology. This btw includes each and every single one of you that supported this by downvoting my comment when I responded to the racist attack. It disgusts me that only one person bothered to point out the racism in this approach. I get that you were reaching for a weapon to hurt me, because that is what we do when we are hurt.  We lash onto a privilege, and then we use it to attack.  I know I recently did this using class to hurt someone.  So yeah, I get it, but it was not in least bit cool.

Editors Note -Apology reboot:

I know that I committed an act of erasure because I didn't consider people who are genderqueer or inter-sex in my response and for that I apologize. Of course it was my privilege that allowed me to just erase a group of people to privilege and support the gender binary which I know to be extremely harmful.

I also didn't think of the implications of what I was saying to single mothers and Lesbians moms. This again is a reflection of my straight and coupled privilege. To those who were offended by what I had to say, I deeply apologize. It was not my intent to cause harm, but I did so anyway and there can be no excuse for that.