Monday, March 5, 2012

Kirk Cameron Calls Homosexuality "Unnatural"

As a Christian woman, every time one of these fundies opens their mouths, it just makes me want to scream.  Kirk Cameron, former child star and star of the Left Behind movies, recently sat with Piers Morgan to discuss same sex marriage.

Piers Morgan: If I asked you for example what your view of gay marriage is, what would you say?
Kirk Cameron: Well go ahead and ask me
Piers Morgan: What is your view of gay marriage?
Kirk Cameron: I feel like I just imported into the Christine O'Donnell interview you did back in August.
Piers Morgan: That's a case where she wouldn't talk about stuff in her own book.
Kirk Cameron: I know
Piers Morgan: I'm just saying that these issues are interesting to me - about what you would tell your kids and you're trying to protect yourself.  Would you tell them that gay marriage is a sin?
Kirk Cameron: I would tell my children, I would tell them what I believe myself and dealing with these social issues whether it's abortion or gay marriage
Piers Morgan: Well, what do you believe?
Kirk Cameron: I believe that marriage was defined by God a long time ago. Marriage is almost as old as dirt and it was defined in the garden between Adam and Eve: one man one woman for life - till death do you part. So, I would never attempt to redefine marriage and I don't think that anyone else should either. So do I support the idea of gay marriage? No I don't.
Piers Morgan: Do you think that homosexuality is a sin?
Kirk Cameron: I think that it's unnatural. I think that it's detrimental and ultimately destructive to so many of the foundations of civilization.
Piers Morgan: What do you do if one of your six kids says, "Dad bad news, I'm gay"?
Kirk Cameron: I'd sit down and I'd have a heart to heart with them, just like you would with your kids. I'd talk to them about..
Piers Morgan: If one of my sons said that I would say, "that's great son, as long as you're happy."What would you say?
Kirk Cameron: Well, I wouldn't say that's great son as long as you're happy.  I'm gonna say ah there's all sorts of issues that we need to wrestle through in our life and just because you feel one way, doesn't mean that we should act on everything that we feel.
Piers Morgan: And yet, some people would say that telling kids that being gay is a sin, or that getting married is a sin [that] that in itself is incredibly destructive and damaging, in a country where seven states now legalized it.
Kirk Cameron: Yes, but you also have to understand that you yourself are using a standard of morality, to say that telling people that such and such of a behaviour is sinful. You're using a standard of morality to make that statement and say that this is terribly destructive, so everyone is going to have a standard against which they..
Piers Morgan: No, no listen, I'm not an American. I'm making the point that seven states in America have now legalized gay marriage.
Kirk Cameron: Well Piers, you're speaking to am who is a Christian and I believe that all of us are sinful.  I could stand at the top of the list and say that I need a savior and I need an over haul of the heart more than anyone and so that's what I teach my kids. I teach them the values that I hold dear. I treasure the God that loves me and forgives me of my sins and I would teach that to my children as well as having a wonderful relationship with them that my wife and work on every single day.
The only thing that Cameron got right in that interview is that we are all sinners before God. Though he took care to point out that this includes him, he certainly expressed what he believes is his right to judge others.  Cameron self-identifies as a Christian man, and so I cannot help but wonder where he stands on, For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all (James 2:10)?  This can be interpreted to mean all sins are equal in the eyes of God.  If he wholly admits that he is a sinner, and we know that God believes that no one is righteous enough to sit in judgement of others, (So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her: John 8:7),  what right does he have to sit in judgement of gay people?

Personally, I don't believe that homosexuality is a sin, because you cannot believe in an all powerful God who is inerrant, and then decide that he made a mistake when he created gay and lesbian people.  What these fundies do, is to twist the bible to suit whatever position they are arguing at the moment, as long as said twisting puts them in the supposed moral right. They desire the appearance of righteousness, far more than they desire to be righteous.

I further find it troubling that homosexuality is always reduced to a sex act.  The very fact that gays and lesbians are fighting for the right to marry, is a clear signal that this isn't just about sex; it's about love.  Since God is love, why would he not celebrate the fact that two people have chosen to come together, and share their lives in a committed relationship?  Love is one of the most beautiful, selfless emotions that we are capable of experiencing as human beings.  Love uplifts us and makes us more than the sum of our parts, and separates us from our baser drives and instincts.  For love, we would sacrifice anything.

When Cameron was talking about his children, I felt nothing but sadness. I truly hope for their sake that none of them turn out to be gay or lesbian, because it is clear from Cameron's statements, that he would disavow them.  I cannot understand how a parent could watch their child being born, change diapers, celebrate many wonderful firsts, have sleepless nights etc., and then simply decide that their child's sexuality is enough to disown them.  When I gave birth to my sons, it was the most powerful experience of my life.  Never did I imagine that I could possibly love anyone like that, and each day as I watch them prosper and grow, the emotion only grows stronger. 

If one, or both of my sons were to tell me one day that they were gay, I would absolutely worry about how homophobia would effect their lives, but it certainly would not be any reason to disown them.  Piers Morgan is right, (Lord, I never though I would write those words), our only concern as parents should be the happiness of our children. I would want them to have the same rights as anyone else under the law, and I would want them to find a partner who cherishes them, and loves them for who they are.  I would want them to feel welcome in our home, and I would welcome their same sex partner into our family without any kind of reservation or disappointment, because that is what you do when you love someone.

It seems to me that Cameron needs to really sit down and think about what love truly means.  It's not about judging others, or putting conditions for the continuation of love. It is about complete and total acceptance of another and embracing who they are.  As a straight Christian woman, I know that I get a lot of stuff wrong, but I know deep within my gut that I am right about this.  I believe that God loves me and every single member of the GLBT community, because we are all his children and as an imperfect being, I know it is not my place to question the will of God. 

Editors Note: please feel free to say your peace about Cameron, however I ask that if you are going to attack Christianity, that you make a separation between Christianity as an institution, and Christian people, because as this post clearly shows, there is a difference.