As much as I love my children, I was absolutely giddy to see them get on the school bus last week. The unhusband and I were singing and dancing, as the children pouted and whined. For as much as they complained about our joy, they were actually ready to leave 45 minutes early, which tells me that they were ready to get back on routine. We went outside to wait for the bus on our porch and it was raining causing Destruction to quip, "You see that, even God is crying for us today." I have to admit that this cracked me up.
I spent that first day reveling in the silence and hanging out with the unhusband. When the school bus pulled up at the end of the day, the dog barked loudly and ran in circles, but I was excited to hear about their first day. The moment
Destruction walked in the house, he told me he had yet another incident involving the word nigger and my heart just sank. They shouldn't have to deal with this ever, but the first day of school?
My kids have had problems with the little asshole before and so this time he got smart. Instead of directly calling either of them nigger, he decided to very loudly sing or rather rap a song that had the word nigger in it, of course emphasizing the word nigger every time. This, I assume, was his way of thwarting the rules, having already been spoken to about why it's not appropriate to call my sons niggers.
Once again, I got on the phone with the school and the bus company and I had to fight to be heard. We supposedly agree that this word is hurtful and racist, but apparently when done in this context it is supposedly not as serious. Clearly a kid who has a history of using this word as a weapon should not be given the benefit of the doubt. Clearly his intent was to harm my children but convincing others of that was a problem. Throughout the conversation, the bus company struggled to get me off the phone and I steadfastly refused to just let this go. In the end, through my complaints, I managed to get the little asshole suspended from the bus for two days. As sad as that is, this is actually a massive achievement because this is the first time I have managed to get some kind of consequence for the racial insults my children have had to live with.