Thursday, March 7, 2013

Women Beats Child With Electrical Cord For Being Gay

'It cuts grass (really!)' photo (c) 2006, Nic McPhee - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0/

Sometimes, you read a story in the news and it hits on you on an absolutely visceral level. This is one of those times. Erica Moore, entered her fifteen year old son's room and discovered him receiving oral sex from his 18 year old cousin. I can imagine that this was a great shock to her, especially if she didn't know that he is gay but her reaction was absolutely horrific.
“My cousin at the time he was 18. My son he was 15 and I had walked in the room on [my cousin] giving oral sex to my son and I started whooping my son, and I’m the one who got in trouble as a result of me whooping him,” she said. “When I walked in I saw my son, it was just disgusting to me, the way he was looking and my cousin was looking, and my cousin immediately ran out the door. And I’m just like what the?!? You know, is you serious? So that was my reaction because it disgusted me.”

Moore admits that she struck her son with an electrical cord because it’s a form of discipline she was taught, and because she doesn’t believe in homosexuality. [source]
 Even though she is facing legal consequences, Moore still does not understand what she did wrong. There is no doubt that this woman is a raging homophobe and it saddens me to know that this child will get no acceptance or support from the person who is supposed to love him unconditionally. He needs to know that his sexuality has no baring on whether he is a good person or a bad person.  He needs to know that he is normal and that have sex with someone of the same sex is not sinful or wrong.

I will never understand how anyone can carry a child in their body, raise them, worry over them and then turn around and beat them bloody.  There is nothing that he ever could have done to earn that treatment, let alone engage in a common sexual act. Later in the linked article, Moore goes on to claim that her reaction would have been the same, had she caught her daughter engaged in a sexual act with a man. Though she is clearly a homophobe, essentially, Moore is saying that her main issue was that her son was engaged in sex in her home. Honestly, I don't buy that for one second.

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

The Weirdness of Friends and the Undead Dildo

Sometimes, you see something that no matter how hard you try, you simply cannot unsee.  Your choices are to either move away slowly and hope the image fades, or take the opportunity to shock or gross out the people around you. Guess which I am going to pick?

Yesterday, I was chatting with a friend of mine, whom I have secretly nicknamed the goddess of sex toys, for her extensive collection and knowledge.  Actually, I think I am going to name her because she should take responsibility for showing me this horror.  So you can all blame HOLLY from Woman Tribune for what you are about to see.

I love the supernatural, as you might well imagine given my other blog Fangs for the Fantasy, I spend quite a bit of time watching movies and television, as well as reading books about vampires, werewolves, ghosts, dystopian worlds and yes the ever popular zombie. As much time as I spend delving into speculative fiction, what I don't do is fantasize about it.  I am a big believer in your kink is not my kink and moving on, but sometimes you just have to pause and wonder what people are thinking.

Note: following image IS NOT SAFE FOR WORK

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Why Choice Does Not Exist in a Vacuum

This is a guest post from Sparky, of Spark in Darkness.  Many of you are  familiar with him from Livejournal, as well as from his insightful and often hilarious commentary here. Each Tuesday, Womanist Musings will be featuring a post from Sparky.

At some point among various members of various activist movements, choice became the last word, the finishing line, the end of any argument.

And you can see why. For so many marginalised people for so much of history the very concept of agency has been alien. Choosing a way to live, choosing what you do with their lives, choosing just about anything has been constantly denied both overtly and covertly. Choice was – and in many ways, still is a luxury that too many marginalised people can’t afford. Either there are people directly controlling what marginalised people can or cannot do, severe and even violent consequences to marginalised people exercising those choices. Even without overt prohibition, there are more hurdles and road blocks – discrimination, prejudice, sometimes even legally, that denies you access to what you want to do or just makes it that much harder or simply a system that is set up to benefit people that just aren’t you

Marginalised people also come under a lot of policing as well. Shame from the privileged society that expects marginalised people to fit various roles or harsh judgement when we do not reach often impossible standards. Shame from within the community for not being the model minority and “making us look bad.” Shame from within the community for not fitting some ideal of what we should be, not liking what we should like, not fighting how we should fight. Shame from within that we fear we may be “doing it wrong”, fear that we’re being too stereotypical or fear that we’re being (horror of horrors!) “assimilationist!”

So, it’s no surprise that agency is vital, that choice is vital, that being able to live our own lives is vital to the point of becoming an untouchable icon to many.

Monday, March 4, 2013

The Problem With Numéro's African Queen

Yes we have yet another magazine tying to justify its inclusion of Blackface.

The above image is of the ever so White, blond-haired, blue-eyed model Ondria Hardin. The image appeared in Numéro magazine n°141 of March 2013 and was photographed by Sebastian Kim.  I don't know how any editor could possibly look at the image and declare it fit to print, given the continual outrage which occurs each time any magazine has chosen to engage in Blackface.  This isn't a case of artistic license but the absolute perpetuation of White supremacy.  

Some people have declared that they have been offended by the publication in Numéro magazine n°141 of March 2013, of an editorial realized by the photographer Sebastian Kim called “African Queen”, featuring the American model Ondria Hardin posing as an “African queen”, her skin painted in black.

The artistic statement of the photographer Sebastian Kim, author of this editorial, is in line with his previous photographic creations, which insist on the melting pot and the mix of cultures, the exact opposite of any skin color based discrimination. Numéro has always supported the artistic freedom of the talented photographers who work with the magazine to illustrate its pages, and has not took part in the creation process of this editorial.

For its part, Numéro Magazine, which has the utmost respect for this photographer’s creative work, firmly excludes that the latest may have had, at any moment, the intention to hurt readers’ sensitivity, whatever their origin.

Numéro Magazine considers that it has regularly demonstrated its deep attachment to the promotion of different skin-colored models. For instance, the next issue of Numéro for Man on sale on 15th march has the black model Fernando Cabral on the cover page, and the current Russian edition’s cover of our magazine features the black model Naomi Campbell on its cover. This demonstrates the completely inappropriate nature of the accusations made against our magazine, deeply committed to the respect for differences, tolerance and more generally to non-discrimination.

Considering the turmoil caused by this publication, the Management of Numéro Magazine would like to apologize to anyone who may have been offended by this editorial. 
Right, so it's not racist to put a person in Blackface no matter what Black people have to say about it, as long as your intention is to show diversity.  Of course, it's absolutely not diverse to show real people of colour, when you can use White people to stand in for them.  Everyone should be able to agree that a racist image is just as good as real representation, after all, they have the future of White supremacy to think about.

It's also shocking that anyone could potentially declare Numéro magazine racist, simply because of one model covered in dark makeup. What's a little Blackface between friends, when you have people like Naomi Campbell on next month's cover?  Just count the Black people. Count them I say. This proves that Numéro isn't at all racist.  Someone should have told Numéro that if we have to be instructed to count Black people that this in itself, is an indicator that there is most definitely a race problem. Racial integration should be seamless, in that people of colour should be easily visible alongside their White counterparts, rather than a few standouts to avoid being labelled racist. Furthermore, using the people of colour associated with the magazine to reject being labelled a racist, is exactly the same deflection of "hey, I have Black friends," and is not only ridiculously unbelievable but racist as well.

At this point, I have become so accustomed and in fact jaded about shitty apologies that this didn't even cause me to bat a single eyelash.  Quite simply, when you engage in something this obviously racist, there is no apology that could possibly make up for it.  The damage has already been done. In the game of bad apologies, Numéro's was pretty horrendous but I have to say that Sebastian Kim was at the very least, equally as bad.