Comments on Womanist Musings: No More Penis Envy

most women can accomplish peeing standing up witho...

2008-09-03T23:14:00.000-04:00

most women can accomplish peeing standing up without such a device anyway, if they really want to. it's a fine skill to have, and easy to learn.

i, too, am offended by the assumption that being able to "do it like a man" is better.

I love you for writing this. Excellent.

2008-08-09T10:38:00.000-04:00

I love you for writing this. Excellent.

Ah, what a crappy product. Oh sure, you can pee w...

2008-08-08T07:07:00.000-04:00

Ah, what a crappy product. Oh sure, you can pee with it. But can you think with it like I do with mine?

The other day I was at an anarcho-comunist-feminis...

2008-08-05T22:40:00.000-04:00

The other day I was at an anarcho-comunist-feminist-whatever bookstore on the Lower East Side. I knew their radical postures were nothing but a pose when:

1.- They gave me funny looks when I bought Fat Chicks Rule.(Seriously? Am I more hardcore and outrageous than The Little Red Book?)
2.- They sold the P-Mate.

I was surprised they didn't sell the Mammy Thimble nor clothes from American Apparel. If they didn't do the latter is because the store was a few blocks away, with one hell of a Photoshop Disasterous billboard.

And don't forget to work much longer hours than th...

2008-08-05T19:53:00.000-04:00

And don't forget to work much longer hours than the women, and don't forget to be confined to be nothing more than the "breadwinner" and only a secondary parent (because that's what the wife wants) whilst the women initiate 70% of all divorces and automatically get the kids and has us thrown in jail if we miss inflated child support payments most of us can't afford. Such privilege! Whoopee!

@Larry: INDEED!

2008-08-05T04:57:00.000-04:00

@Larry: INDEED!

@Paul no I didn't feel scolded at all...just a fai...

2008-08-04T17:09:00.000-04:00

@Paul no I didn't feel scolded at all...just a failure I recognized on my part. I have just begun to speak out as a trans ally and so the language I use is still filled with far more privilege than I would like. It is a work in progress for me and when I become aware of a mistake that I have made I am determined to acknowledge it so as not to repeat the same behavior pattern. I really appreciated the commentary from you.

I hope you didn't think I was attempting to scold ...

2008-08-04T17:00:00.000-04:00

I hope you didn't think I was attempting to scold you, Renee! :) Yes, they are marketed at cisgendered women specifically which IS problematic. And since the marketing and "having a penis = wonderful" was, after all, the point of your post, I wasn't upset that trans folks weren't mentioned; I just thought I'd bring that up as food for thought.

@Paul you make an excellent point and I concur tha...

2008-08-04T16:09:00.000-04:00

@Paul you make an excellent point and I concur that in this situation these devices are wonderful, however as this product is marketed at CIS women specifically I find it problematic. I certainly main no offense to trans men. I should have made a clarifying statement at the beginning of the post rather than relying on position as an a ally to assert that belief. Thank you for pointing it out and I will be more careful of the language that I use in the future.

I just wanted to point out that for F to M trans f...

2008-08-04T16:01:00.000-04:00

I just wanted to point out that for F to M trans folks, devices like these are indispensable, not only for passing, but psychologically, it's amazing how much it can do for self-esteem.

for real...these things are awesome.but if you're ...

2008-08-04T15:04:00.000-04:00

for real...these things are awesome.

but if you're wanting to have one that is reusable and environmentally friendly (not to mention sanitary) check out these ones:
http://www.kristascups.com/pstyle

I grinned reading your article, but as for that de...

2008-08-04T12:10:00.000-04:00

I grinned reading your article, but as for that device itself, I applaud its design & availability -- as a kid, I went hiking, a lot, and also squatted down in nettles. A lot. As an adult, someone crashed into me and broke my first vertebra, sending me to hospital and rehab clinics. How did my friend Jen put it? So much lying on the back, so little fun. Afterwards, I could stand, yes, but not sit, so one of these would have come in very hand-y, indeed, pun intended.

I'm all about the squatting. I don't need a fake ...

2008-08-03T14:27:00.000-04:00

I'm all about the squatting. I don't need a fake dick to pee outside or a port-a-potty.

All things being equal...soon as men experience cr...

2008-08-03T10:53:00.000-04:00

All things being equal...soon as men experience cramping(and not from excessive over eating)and get to enjoy the sensational feeling of having a hard pillow stuffed between ur legs for days on end...then we can talk equal....btw...if we didnt get the added joy of squatting over filthy toilets we would also miss the poetic and sometimes thought provoking remarks etched into bathroom stall walls. Some of my more "aha" moments came while doing a number one in some run down disgusting bathroom behind a gas station or some such place. And to think...I could have missed it if I had just pissed on the wall outside.

OHHH NOOOO you have taken away our only advantage...

2008-08-03T10:51:00.000-04:00

OHHH NOOOO you have taken away our only advantage!!!

I have to say, I've reviewed one of these products...

2008-08-03T10:17:00.000-04:00

I have to say, I've reviewed one of these products at my place, and I don't see it so much as penis envy, but as potentially making some difficult situations easier. I like to go camping - I don't like trying to gather up all my fabric and squat in the woods. Yeah, it would be nice if outdoor/portable toilets at concerts and other events were sparkling clean, but as long as they're not going to be... It also occurred to me that something like this could have been useful for my mom after her hip replacement, when lowering herself up and down was a huge (and literal) pain. Maybe it would be helpful in other post-op or limited mobility situations as well.

oh and honey, the day you can deliver the money sh...

2008-08-03T09:26:00.000-04:00

oh and honey, the day you can deliver the money shot is the day I wear googles! I hear that shit stings when it gets in the eye!

And damnit don't forget to lift and then lower the...

2008-08-03T09:24:00.000-04:00

And damnit don't forget to lift and then lower the seat!!